Loving You Is Easy

Ah, L’amour. On this Valentine’s day, is your world filled with love, mushy messages, flowers, chocolate, romance and adoration? I hope so. Valentine’s Day, love it or hate it, is a reminder to honour those we love. Did you honour the one you love who looked back at you in the mirror this morning? Have you done anything loving for yourself today? My guess is that the answer is no – most of us are terrible at loving ourselves, and much more comfortable looking for love from others. But when we do this, we are missing out on a fabulous source of love. We are cutting ourselves off from the endless well of love we have inside, and putting it in the hands of someone else…whose skills might not include giving love!

Do you love yourself? Do you appreciate your wonderful qualities? Do you enjoy your little foibles and odd habits? Do you adore who you are? Do you show yourself this love? Or do you hide the love behind a veil of criticism, judgement and fault-finding? Whether you are in a relationship arranged by Cupid himself, or whether you are single, loving yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. You feel loved, whether the outside world is reflecting back your magnificence, beauty and gorgeousness or not. You are loved – you are an amazing human being. Look at you, you’re adorable!

So give yourself some love! How? Well how do you show love for your lovers, your friends, your family? Tell yourself ‘I love you’ in the mirror. Give yourself a kiss – go on, kiss your hand! Give yourself a cuddle – go on, do it. If anyone sees you, you can pretend you’re cold! Praise yourself. Go on a rampage of appreciation for yourself – list all the things you love about yourself: your sense of humour, your generosity, your beautiful eyes, the way you look when you laugh. Sing your favourite love song to yourself in the mirror. Do yourself a mixed CD of love songs. Buy yourself flowers, chocolates, jewelry. Ask yourself what is the most loving thing you can do for yourself when you’re making any decision.

The first time I sang a love song to myself in the mirror, I couldn’t stop laughing – it was the funniest thing! But after I’d done it, I did indeed feel more loved. It may sound a bit bonkers, but do it anyway – when you feel loved, you are more secure, happier, you are more able to give love…and more able to receive love, as well as attracting other people who reflect back to you how lovable and wonderful you are. Of course it’s lovely when someone else buys the flowers and chocolates, but don’t leave it in their hands alone. Love yourself. You deserve it. Altogether now…

When I see your face
There’s not a thing that I would change
Cause you’re amazing
Just the way you are

(Bruno Mars – Just the Way you are)

Mwah! With much love, Happy Valentine’s Day

Donna.xxx