A note from Donna
Not for the first time, I needed to read what I wrote this week! It is the anniversary of my uncle’s death today…and my friend reminded me that I mustn’t be down on my own – that she’d help me!! Thanks mate. xxx
Help! I need somebody
If you are anything like me, when you need a bit of help is the time when you disappear off the planet. For years I have been utterly marvellous at retreating to my cave to struggle on alone instead of taking the easy path and asking for help! My friends are the same – I often find out after the fact that the reason they have not been in touch is because they’ve been busy having a crisis! And then over the last week, several clients have also mentioned the same subject.
So why do we find it so hard to ask for help? In my case, I am supremely stubborn, independent and self-assured – to a fault! My dad is the opposite – he will cheerfully ask all and sundry for assistance with anything and everything. Can you ask for help when you need it? If not, why do you find it hard to ask for help? Is it that you don’t like to admit weakness? Is it that you want to do everything alone? Do you think you should be able to cope? Do you not want to burden other people with your problems?
Although it’s a trite saying, a problem shared is a problem halved. Well, if not halved, at least relieved! Other people are lovely souls – they love to help when they can. More than that, no man is an island – we all need others to survive. Even my Rice Krispies (breakfast cereal) go through the hands of loads of people just to get to my plate! And despite this interconnection, we still go it alone, don’t ask for help, don’t look for assistance, think this is part of life to just battle through alone.
I am going to get a little ‘woo-woo’ now, so if you’re against ‘woo-woo’-ness, turn away now! How often do you ask God, or the universe, or the guardian angels, or your guides, or whatever you believe in, for help? Divine assistance is an incredible resource that I think we do not ask for enough. I have had some incredible help from upstairs (as I call it) when I have remembered to ask – resources that came my way ‘out of the blue’, new clients, inspiration for articles, friends, all sorts of things.
Whether you believe in the unseen or not, I know without a shadow of a doubt that there is a benevolent and loving force helping me…when I ask! Which brings me to my last point. If you don’t ask, you don’t get! Either from the divine, or from the bloke next door. If you keep all your troubles to yourself, not only do you deny yourself the opportunity to be helped, you also deny them the opportunity to be helpful.
Something to play with
Think of a situation you could use some help with – maybe you just need some ideas, maybe you need a strong back for some lifting, maybe you just need a willing ear? ASK FOR HELP! Want to share your thoughts on this? Please leave me a comment below.
Love
Donna.x