A note from Donna
Since the gig I went to last Tuesday, my throat has been playing up and my voice has run the range between Minnie Mouse and that woman with a husky, low, smoker’s voice off Coronation Street of 20 years ago – can’t remember her name! I was listening to the messages my body was sending me – I needed rest desperately…and sadly my plans to snooze the afternoon away were thwarted 3 days in a row. (Do you think these people know telepathically the worst time to call?) This is a time for perseverance – I will get an afternoon snooze! Zzzzzzzzzz.
Will This Still Matter Tomorrow?
Woah, what a week! It’s been a real rollercoaster of a week, with trials, tribulations and stressors abounding…only most of these trials and tribulations are very short lived. I can’t even remember what stressed me out on Monday, Tuesday’s trial was a storm in a teacup, Wednesday’s stressor is a possibility that won’t happen until next year if at all, Thursday’s tribulation was a huge deal one minute, and non-existent the next! Sheesh.
Most of the time I’m very laid back and easy going (or I like to think so anyway!), but just occasionally I get sucked into drama. This week most of the drama has been about other people, but a couple of things have been going on in my head too…and all of it has been a fuss over nothing! How often do you get caught up in dramas that are enormously stressful, get you worried and anxious, and then blow over within a week?
We have a tendency to get caught up in what’s happening right now, losing perspective and working ourselves into a frenzy. Life is so much harder when you are being battered by every storm that comes your way. Of course, there is the occasional hurricane…but most of the storms only need an umbrella, not a full-scale town evacuation! It’s nice to have the odd drama-queen moment, but when you live your whole life in that state of adrenaline and crisis it is hard work!
Before you get caught up in the crisis will this still matter tomorrow? (to the tune of ‘Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow’!) Will it matter in a week’s time? Will it matter in a month? Will it matter in 6 months? Will it matter in a year? Will it matter in 5 years? Now you have a sense of how important this is in the grand scheme of things – is your reaction appropriate? Is it in perspective? Is it worth feeling bad about? Is it worth risking your health? Is it worth wasting time being angry?
Many of the little dramas we get caught up in on a day to day basis are relatively unimportant, and although irritating at the time, not significant enough for us to lose our peace over. Spilt coffee? Won’t matter tomorrow. Idiot drivers on the road? Won’t matter next week. Bitchiness at work? Won’t matter in 5 years time. What will matter? That you had fun, that you were your best self, that you gave and received love, that you were joyful and happy and didn’t waste energy and time and stress on things that won’t matter tomorrow.
Something to play with
Whenever you are losing your cool (or even afterwards!) ask yourself if this will matter tomorrow, or next week, or next year…if not, can you just let it go?
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