How are you on this fine November day? I am sitting in front of my new super light – it’s an early birthday present to help me to stop getting the hump just because it’s winter, it’s dark, it’s cold…ugh, roll on spring! Anyway, I decided we needed an article to remind us all of our utter magnificence, so I dug this article out of the archives – enjoy!
– Who Owns the Room? –
A few years ago, I did a belly dancing workshop and I learnt that a vital aspect of belly dancing is attitude – the dancer must believe that she is the most beautiful, sensual, magnificent creature her audience has ever seen. Our wonderful workshop leader, Claire, demonstrates this attitude perfectly, and the exercises in the workshop convince even the shyest of dancers that they are, indeed, the most fantastic woman on earth. Now, I am not suggesting that you don the jangly belt and start dancing round the office (unless you really want to…and if you do, please send me a photo!).
It’s the attitude that’s important. That attitude of celebrating your own magnificence. Of being the absolute centre of power and influence. Of having poise, grace, charm, presence, confidence. As you start to cultivate this attitude, your head comes up, your chest comes out, your stomach comes in, you are captivating. Your light shines brightly in a room. You are dazzling, charming, mesmerizing.
It is a very special feeling. And it isn’t one we walk round with often, is it? When was the last time you walked into a room as if you owned it and everyone in it? I’m not talking about arrogance, about some two-bit starlet announcing their presence (and no one caring). I’m talking about real power, true brilliance, which doesn’t care who notices, because it is certain of its own allure. Pure self-confidence that is not a performance put on for others, but only for ourselves.
When you get a chance this week, look up magnificence in your thesaurus, then look up all the associated words that appeal to you. How often do you use these words in relation to yourself? If it’s less that every minute, you need to reclaim these words for YOU. Because you are magnificent, brilliant, gorgeous, powerful, majestic and superb.
Say the words aloud – don’t they just fill your mouth? Just the sound of these words brings you up…and up…and up. By thinking about yourself in this language, even walking into the bathroom becomes an exercise in realising just how amazing you are (it’d be even better with a coin belt though – hint, hint!). So, who owns the room? You do, of course. Silly question.
– Something to Play With –
Everytime you walk into a room this week, walk in like you OWN it, like you are the person they have all been waiting for – all their lives. As if you are the best thing that ever happened to that room. Notice what happens to your body, your mind and your heart. (even just walking into an empty room with this attitude works…) Want to share your thoughts on this article? Leave a comment below.
Love
Donna.x
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3 responses to “Who Owns the Room?”
That is very good advice, Donna! ZAZ it is! 🙂
Maybe there are different levels of confidence – I’d say you have a strong inner sense of who you are, a self-assurance, a strong self-belief. But maybe that confidence needs to get out more!!! Lol. Give it some ZAZ and walk into the rooms in your house like you are on top of the world! xxxx
I love this, Donna! Wow, when I read it, I realized I hadn’t walked into a room that way since 2005. That was the year my first novel came out, and I was still in my size 10 body, and I was feeling so on top of the world. I remember what I was wearing (nothing special, but for some reason it sticks in my mind), and I remember how confident I felt.
I wouldn’t have said that I don’t feel confident now (like those double negatives? ;), but the contrast between how I feel now and how I felt then makes me think.
Thanks for this wonderful story and reminder!