Imagine being loved the way you’ve always wanted to be loved – unconditionally supported, encouraged, nurtured, empowered, adored and cherished. Imagine someone seeing in you the beauty, the unbridled potential, the wonderful qualities you embody – seeing the best in you, even when you are at your worst. Imagine someone seeing right into your heart and soul, knowing your deepest dreams and always believing in you. Imagine someone who knows your darkest secrets and still loves you unconditionally.
Imagine for a moment what that would feel like. Most of us seek that love externally, from our families, friends and partners, which is a huge (and unfair) expectation to place on them. It also takes your power away and puts it in the hands of another. At best, this is someone who has your best interests at heart, even if they don’t always really understand you (because they’re not you!). At worst, you are putting it in the hands of someone who is reckless and cruel to the precious being that is you.
Take back your power. Give yourself the love you’ve always wanted. Treat yourself as the truly precious, wonderful being that you are, and find the love you’ve always wanted is within you. Not only does this release the pressure on others to love you ‘right’, it also shows those around you how to love themselves – a gift beyond price.
Imagine what it would be like if you unconditionally supported yourself – if you were your own biggest supporter – how would that change your life?
Imagine if you really encouraged yourself to go for the things you really want in life – how would that change your life?
Imagine if you really nurtured yourself -took super-great care of yourself, body, mind, heart and soul – how would that change your life?
Imagine if you felt empowered, adored and cherished by the way you treat yourself. I know we all want it from someone else – the ‘soul mate’, the ‘twin flame’, but here’s the great thing about it. When you empower, adore and cherish yourself, you attract others who do the same. You teach those around you how you deserve to be treated. And if you truly empower, adore and cherish yourself, all those idiots who don’t treat you with respect and love are gonna get kicked to the kerb, girlfriend!
No, you don’t have to sack your relationship of 15 years – steady on! When you start to cherish yourself, other people naturally start to treat you better anyway. But if you are the guardian of your own self-respect and self-esteem, you will know when it’s time to ask them for what you need, or to head ’em up, move ’em out, move ’em on, head ’em out…(sorry, you’ll now have the Rawhide lyrics going round in your head all day too!)
Imagine seeing in yourself the beauty, the unbridled potential, the wonderful qualities you embody – seeing the best in you, even when you are at your worst. Instead of focusing on all the bad stuff that you do wrong, or the ways you’re NOT living up to your potential, imagine focusing on what you do RIGHT, and all the potential you have. It gives me shivers to imagine you really appreciating just how effing awesome you are!
Because you are. You may not know it yet, you may have just caught a glimpse of how magnificent you are, you may know that you are a unique, uncut, stunning diamond of a soul. It doesn’t matter how aware you are of it, it’s true nonetheless, and you deserve to be treated with the greatest of care and love. And it starts with you. Happy Valentine’s Day, beautiful – may love surround you and flow through you this day and every day of your life. Mwah!
Start today by asking yourself these questions: If I loved myself unconditionally, what would I do for myself today? If I truly supported myself one hundred percent, what would change today? How do I get the best from myself? (tip: it’s not by being an evil, whip-cracking perfectionist!)
I would love to hear your thoughts on this – how you show love to yourself, and what your answers to the questions above are.
Love, love, love <3 Donna.xxx
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4 responses to “The Love You’ve Always Wanted”
I agree Crystal – it took me years to realise it wasn’t someone else’s responsibility…and suddenly instead of hanging on someone else’s approval, the power was in my hands :-0 – imagine if we’d all got that when we were teenagers?! x
What spoke to me is the idea of not putting it on someone else to unconditionally love us. (Surely, because I did this as a young woman.) For many – not all – of us our parents provided us with that unconditional love. Then, as young adults, we expect our boyfriend or girlfriend to be that all-loving cheerleader of us and we are surprised and hurt when it doesn’t work that way. It seems that perhaps we need to be actively teaching young people that they must love themselves.
Thanks Dominee! That would be awesome wouldn’t it?! I’ll have to have a think how I could do that 😀 bwah-ha-ha! x
I absolutely love this. I wish this wisdom could be put into the minds of every one, it would make the world such a wonderful place.
I love your message!