Tag: self-criticism

  • Obstacle Busting: Negative Self-Talk and Self Criticism

    Obstacle Busting: Negative Self-Talk and Self Criticism

    We all have an inner critic or gremlin; or whatever you like to call that nasty voice in your head that is negative and critical and mean and harsh and horrible. It’s a magnificent obstacle. Genuinely, it really is – because once you can get this one retrained, it will change your life. Just imagine…

  • Instead of Beating Yourself Up For Not Doing X…Do X!

    Instead of Beating Yourself Up For Not Doing X…Do X!

    Have you ever done this to yourself? You notice you’re not doing something …and instead of saying “hey! I haven’t done that, and I want to. I’m gonna do it right now!”, you use it as an excuse to beat yourself up. “Oh my God, I STILL haven’t done that thing. I suck. I have…

  • Build Yourself Up, Don’t Tear Yourself Down

    Build Yourself Up, Don’t Tear Yourself Down

    I was talking to a client the other day who’d had a good meeting with a new client, they were happy the client had got a lot from it, they had enjoyed it…but then they started second-guessing, undermining and taking away from themselves. Yeah it might have gone well, but they should have gone deeper,…

  • There is Nothing Wrong With You

    There is Nothing Wrong With You

    I’ve had quite a few conversations lately about where clients are “going wrong”, or where they have character flaws, or where they are deficient, or lacking or incomplete. So, let me get one thing straight here and now. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not deficient. You are not defective. You do not…

  • If Your Bladder is Full, Go To The Toilet

    If Your Bladder is Full, Go To The Toilet

    There’s a conversation I have with clients fairly often about seeing the signs and using them as a reminder.  Like when your bladder is full, you go to the toilet.  When your fuel guage is low, you go to the garage.  There is no bargaining with the bladder and the fuel tank…you might keep them…

  • Video: Setting Yourself Up for Success and Self Criticism

    Watch the video here. My Daily Practice for January is “Setting yourself up for success in 2013”. This week in a few of my coaching sessions, the subject of self-criticism has come up, and it’s not a great way to set yourself up for success! The positive intention of the part of you that is…

  • Tips From A Wild Donkey Rider

    Tips From A Wild Donkey Rider

    So last week, I took time out for the first time to Ride Wild Donkeys. In my morning pages, this is what my soul said on day 3: “Thank you for showing up 3 days in a row to Ride Wild Donkeys. Thank you for trusting in your (our) ideas. Thank you for moving forward…